tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post7730887390673487492..comments2023-10-21T05:34:21.696-06:00Comments on Cardine's Blog: What Not to Say to Single PeopleUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-52558088361918510122012-09-20T16:34:34.986-06:002012-09-20T16:34:34.986-06:00I love it! I wrote a blog post very similar to th...I love it! I wrote a blog post very similar to this. Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11332789531244864904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-81661143659512257372012-09-05T15:05:08.478-06:002012-09-05T15:05:08.478-06:00tearese - Exactly. People say dumb things about so...tearese - Exactly. People say dumb things about so many situations that are just different than their own. I say dumb things, too, but maybe with a collective effort, eventually we all won't say so many dumb things.<br /><br />It's always weird to me when people think makeup equals beauty. I don't see it that way at all. I also don't think it's really all that weird for the girl to be taller than the guy.<br /><br />That 50 year old sounds cool.<br /><br />Banana - You're just fine, even if you feel like the kids have consumed your life.<br /><br />Keith - Funny!Cardinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13260768171568324499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-42102841045214628782012-08-30T13:04:45.474-06:002012-08-30T13:04:45.474-06:00I didn't know Rick had a grandson.I didn't know Rick had a grandson.Keithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-14168471808540901772012-08-28T21:23:18.711-06:002012-08-28T21:23:18.711-06:00Err...
Don't take this wrong, but sometimes I ...Err...<br />Don't take this wrong, but sometimes I feel that I am not a real person now that I have kids. I mean, I feel that I don't know how to have normal conversations with people any more. ...unless we are talking volleyball. Kids are just so monopolizing of life. That's a good thing to me, though. So, sorry I am so focused on one thing.banananoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-2362418189390339482012-08-28T09:47:14.363-06:002012-08-28T09:47:14.363-06:00People say stupid stuff about all situations, don&...People say stupid stuff about all situations, don't they? I had an Institute teacher tell me once that boys would like me more if I wore makeup. I really liked my teacher, but I was SO offended at that point. Another one told me I shouldn't wear shoes that make me taller, because I'm already taller than some boys and it would make things awkward. <br />Thankfully, I married someone who is taller than me(and yes, it is awkward to be taller than a boy you're going out with) but I didn't think it was their place to make the suggestion to me. Sheesh!<br />There is a guy in my Branch who everyone is always trying to set up. Someone told him that if he got a nice new truck, he could probably get a girlfriend. He told them bluntly (but with a smile) I don't want a new truck, and I don't want a girlfriend. He's 50, and I would think he was probably tired of people always bringing up the subject. Oops. I just told you a story about another single person. Sorry.<br />Also, I can think of other situations now that I'm married where people say innapropriate things too...it never ends. As you mentioned, there are things people say when a couple has no children that are very hurtful, or if they have too many children, or about a myriad of other choices people make.<br />I think I sometimes commit these faux pas too, but I really try to keep my mouth shut until I know someone's situation better. The end.tearesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10362666264858845959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-785237987770453682012-08-28T01:03:38.041-06:002012-08-28T01:03:38.041-06:00dub - Totally. 'Yet' does have an assumpti...dub - Totally. 'Yet' does have an assumption with it. Thanks for understanding what I was trying to get across with this post!<br /><br />Sarah - Yeah, sometimes people don't realize that setting people up takes real effort and having an idea about if they would be a match.<br /><br />Cash - People are constantly telling me that I need to move to get married, but oddly enough, most of those people are single and later move. And it does irritate me for probably the same reasons that it did you.<br /><br />Julie - I'm not currently dating anyone, in case you were to hesitant to ask! Also, I similarly wish people could get an idea of the awesomeness of the single years of life. I'm not quite sure why people think it's so sad.<br /><br />Libby - Thanks. I hope many people learn from this blog post. I hope people can realize that sometimes what they say is really insensitive.Cardinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13260768171568324499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-29277892710881723812012-08-27T18:30:51.704-06:002012-08-27T18:30:51.704-06:00Well said my friend! WELL SAID! (I hope it's...Well said my friend! WELL SAID! (I hope it's okay, but I have quite a bit of family that I am going to refer to this blog post.)Lib-Dawg https://www.blogger.com/profile/10973392978582580112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-9109499313046700732012-08-27T14:16:29.048-06:002012-08-27T14:16:29.048-06:00I always hated "Are you dating anyone?" ...I always hated "Are you dating anyone?" It's not a horrible question, but I rarely was so I hated having to say no. Like you said about the gay issue, if someone IS dating someone, they'll eventually get around to sharing it. Or they won't and that's their business too. That said, I'm often tempted to ask this of my single friends only because I don't see them or talk to them as much as I'd like and it's something I would like to know. However, I don't ask it.<br /><br />Like Sarah, I find myself shifting through the marriage veil, but I think it helps that I didn't get married until my mid 30s so can still remember what it was like to be single since I was for so long. I will always always always be grateful for my single years and wish I could impart their wonderfulness to people who are marrying at 18 or even 20. Ah well. They have different lives to live.<br /><br />Good post. I especially like having something, anything!, to read from you. I miss you.juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13361843863209384103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-35785126962494766102012-08-27T14:07:57.901-06:002012-08-27T14:07:57.901-06:00Excellent list. May I add another one? I had a wor...Excellent list. May I add another one? I had a work supervisor once tell me not to move to a certain location because I wouldn't be able to get married there. There were about five insulting things he was insinuating with this comment (as you can probably imagine) but it had the strange effect of making me feel really sorry for him (instead of me).Cashnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-19481600638828554302012-08-27T13:16:00.051-06:002012-08-27T13:16:00.051-06:00I like this post for two reasons.
(1) I have had...I like this post for two reasons. <br /><br />(1) I have had many of these same thoughts and feelings, as a single person. The one that happened to me most often was #2 (or #3). I thought many times, "Please don't match me up with someone, because the only thing we have in common is our single-ness. That's not enough, thanks!" Also... I've never had anyone ask me if I was gay, but I did have someone ask if one of my very close friends was. Or, that she thought he was. I was so angry. What an assumption!! Especially considering the individuals involved.<br /><br />(2) I am finding myself gradually shifting onto the other side of the "marriage veil of forgetfulness", so this post is a good reminder for me. In defense of the un-thinking, yet happily matched, folks who blurt out stupidly: sometimes it's hard to remember that my current thoughts and feelings are not always what they used to be. I hope I'm never as rude or unthinking as the folks you have described in your post, but I can see my mind-set shifting to a new reality. For myself. So, I guess that's the point.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16912651.post-38037585645854608392012-08-27T09:29:12.861-06:002012-08-27T09:29:12.861-06:00Great list! I want to add one more (kind of simila...Great list! I want to add one more (kind of similar to your #5) that I've noticed lately from some of my new female acquaintances. A lot of them say things like, "Oh, my sister isn't married yet." YET?!?! What is that supposed to mean? That someone is not complete "until" he/she gets married? That marriage is an inevitable or necessary stage in our human development? Maybe I'm overreacting -- after all, those women may just be trying to be optimistic or something -- but I do not think that "yet" is an appropriate word to use in that sentence. There are many people who will not get married in this life at all, and I believe that they are complete human beings with as much value as married people!dubnoreply@blogger.com