Every once in a while I'll have people mention to me that they'd like to set me up with someone of their acquaintence. I've gone through periods in my life when I've felt very unwilling to go on dates that were set up, but I've also gone through times when it actually sounds fun. Now is one of the times when it sounds fun. Sure, I've been "set up" with someone that I've already known, and I've gone with someone who basically interviewed me for their open position of "wife." (I obviously failed that interview.) Those types of dating set ups are really, really pretty awkward, but I feel that it's sometimes fun to meet different people, even if it isn't a love connection, which, for me, it rarely is (okay, it never has been).
I've been asked a couple of times in the last few months if I would be willing to be set up with someone's coworker or their friend. I've said 'yes' both of those times, but for some reason, nothing has happened. Apparently the follow-through is lacking in those areas or the desire of the other party to the set up.
I think that the first guy is someone that my coworker tried to set me up with about three or four years ago, but I said no at the time. I wasn't in the set up mode then. In fact, I wasn't even wanting to date at all at the time. I didn't even realize that it was probably the same guy until a few days after I had given my phone number to the instigator of the set up. It's been about a month and a half, but I haven't heard anything, so I guess it's just too bad. And it is. It is.
The second guy speaks Spanish as his first language. In fact, I'm not sure how much English he knows. I'm not sure if he's even legally in this country. I think I can follow-up better on this one. Call me crazy, but I really, really want to go. If I go, I think I'll try to make it a double and see if my friend Sara will go, too. The person instigating the set up already asked me how I feel about dating Latin men. I guess there would be some people who might object, but I can't see how being Latin would be an automatic deal breaker. But maybe that's just me. I can say, though, that I am opposed to having a relationship with someone who is involved in illegal activities, so I suppose if I found out that he's not legal, the dating would have to cease.
So, I would like your feedback. If you're single, how do you feel about being set up? Do you have any stories relating to being set up? If you're married, do you get involved in setting people up? If so, why? If not, why not? Do you have any stories? Please share. Please. In the comments or by e-mailing me at cardinesblog atsign gmail dot com. Thanks.